The countdown to fresher’s week is well and truly on. But, for every student that’s excited for the new university adventure, there’s a student anxiously awaiting the new changes. For those that are feeling the nerves because of all the impending lifestyle changes, we’re here to help you build confidence ahead of the university move.
Just remember, self-confidence is a skill first and foremost. So like any other skill, it can be learned. While there is no immediate fix, these tips and tricks may help you on your way to making friends fast and finding your feet.
How To Be More Confident
It may seem like a simple concept, but looking at things in a positive way will ultimately help you feel more positive. So every time a negative thought creeps in (‘I’m going to do badly in exams’) replace with a positive (‘I will work hard to revise and do the best of my ability in exams’).
This positive reinforcement will help build up your self-esteem. Say no to negative self-talk, as this will only bring your confidence levels down.
Sign Up to Clubs & Societies
If one of your biggest pre-uni fears is not being able to make friends, then put yourself out there and actively search for like-minded people with similar hobbies and interests. Visit your uni’s freshers fair and sign up to any societies that interest you. Often these clubs and societies will have regular meet-ups outside of any activities, so it’s a great way to make friends.
Set Small Goals
There is no quick fix to building confidence and therefore there’s room for constant improvement and development. Instead of setting yourself a big overarching goal of ‘be more confident’, set yourself mini goals to achieve this. So for social butterfly status, start off small by approaching the student in the dorm next door to you. Then once you have ticked off this goal, mentally celebrate this achievement before moving on to another goal like inviting this new dorm friend for a coffee in the kitchen.
Having trouble sparking up a conversation with your dorm neighbour? One of the best ways is to find a common interest, so if you've heard a familiar band blasting from their speakers or spotted them in your lecture hall then start with these safe topics. Alternatively, asking a question is another easy way of starting a conversation. And just remember, in those first few days/weeks everyone is in the same boat so get set to hear a lot of 'what are you studying?' and 'where are you from?' questions flying about.
Always be true to yourself and never do something for the sake of appearances. So, if you’re a massive field hockey fan, then it makes perfect sense to join the society. But if you’re not, then don’t spend a term listening to hockey talk and googling ‘hockey fouls.’ A great way of staying true to yourself is keeping in touch with your friends from home and family as they will keep reminding you of your true self.
For more wellbeing advice, watch our video with expert Clare Dimond on how to break bad habits…